Yup, I'm Still With My High School Sweetheart
If someone told me at the beginning of my high school career or, better yet, in middle school that I would meet the love of my life at age 15, I would have laughed. Yet, here I am, still with him and still happy. I’ve been told by several friends, classmates, teachers, and family members that it won’t work out or that I’m wasting my time. I’ve also heard that I’ll regret not dating other people. But, I haven’t found any of those things to be true and that isn’t just because I’m not mature enough to see the big picture. In fact, I’ve matured quite a bit since meeting my boyfriend eight years ago during my freshman year of high school. I feel like we have grown up together, which is part of the reason, I think, that high school relationships can be so special. Some ‘haters’ have told me that high school relationships never last, because each person in the relationship is unable to form their own values, beliefs, and ideals. I have not found that to be the case, though. Luckily, my boyfriend and I have been able to grow up together, as a couple, and separately, as individuals.
I might be able to attribute this to the fact that we did long-distance while I was in college. I missed him while I was away, but I am also happy that it happened this way because it allowed me to do my own thing and get involved at my school. I wasn’t a huge party girl, so I would come home on the weekends and spend time with him, friends, and family. Long-distance does not work for everyone, but it worked for us. It taught us to communicate and it allowed us to develop as strong individuals, rather than being codependent. I’d also like to point out the fact that having a long history together is special. Of course, not every second of our relationship has been easy, but we have been able to tackle each obstacle as a team. Because we have known each other for long and because we met at an imperative time in our adolescent lives, we experienced a lot of firsts together. True, I didn’t date around in college, which apparently is the thing to do. But, in my seven-year relationship, I have, instead, learned nearly everything about my boyfriend and we understand each other on a very deep level that I am grateful for: our families, our lifestyles, our interests, our faults, etc.
Despite the negative attention we receive for ‘still’ being together, I have learned to look past what other people think of our relationship. At the end of the day, it is no one’s business but ours. Plus, I always try to remind myself that you never know how a relationship is behind closed doors. This goes for others forming opinions on my relationship, as well as the opinions I, myself, form of other people’s relationships. I am looking forward to growing together with my boyfriend and going through all of the life stages as they come, together. Now that I have graduated from college, we are both coming into our adulthood and exploring new career paths. Being in new and developing stages of our lives, it is crazy to see how much our relationship has already evolved in the most recent months. I realize that what one looks for in a relationship changes over time, due to various experiences and opportunities. However, I guess I can consider myself lucky because my partner has been what I needed at each age and stage of my life so far.
All in all, my advice to couples in those questionable relationships, like being high school sweethearts, is to ignore the negative comments. Focus on your own relationship and do what you can to ensure that you’re growing both as individual people and as a couple. Appreciate the fact that you have found your soulmate; you don’t need validation from anyone else, because your love is perfect as is. So to those who have asked, “are you sure he’s the one?” — yes, I’m sure.
To those who are still with their high school sweethearts, what is your least favorite question to get asked?