Facing Your Fears 101

Facing Your Fears 101 bold. online magazine

Aly Leia Wein

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If you're human, you have fears. It's only natural. But when a nagging fear becomes a roadblock to your dreams and way of life, it becomes a problem that really needs to be addressed— sooner rather than later.

I asked some of my friends—all who have many different personalities and interests—what the biggest paralyzing fear in their life was, something that gets in the way of them living their lives to the fullest in some way, shape, or form. Here were some of the responses I got:

My biggest fear is being a victim of a shooting, so I don't go to the movie theater a lot because I get anxiety when I'm there. - Matthew

A big fear of mine is running out of time on projects or homework and not being able to do my best on them. It holds me back because sometimes I rush, thinking I will run out of time, and then it doesn't turn out like I had hoped. - Melody

My biggest fear is failing at what I set my mind to do. - Oliver

People not liking me or talking about me behind my back. - Chloe

One of my biggest fears is losing people who are close to me. I think it's because my dad left, and ever since I have had a hard time with the concept of friends going to college, moving, people dying, etc. The thought of anyone who is a part of my life disappearing is heartbreaking and nerve-wracking. - Marie

Having a great life cut short or a boring life kept long. - Sofia

One of my fears is people judging me for who I am... I have to be like a fake version of myself in front of others, and it prevents me from having fun. - Kate

My biggest fear is uncertainty. It prevents me from taking dangerous risks, but it also stops me from taking leaps that will get me where I want to be. - Rachel

And my biggest fear is not being loved. The worst thing in the world is being excluded and feeling like a lonely, weird loser who isn't good enough. So, that definitely holds me back from a lot of things I want to do.

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So we all have fears. Now what? We need to fight through them. How? Check out these four tips below—I believe in you!

1. Address your fears

By not admitting your fears, you're really just adding putting off the inevitable. Change starts with honesty—with yourself and with others. Denying a problem or emotion is never good in any situation.

2. Ask yourself, what's the worst that could really happen?

Fears often have a high improbability of happening, and sometimes the idea of something is worse than the actual thing itself. There are a million things to be afraid of: violence, germs, losing someone, dying, etc. But the thing is... if we focus on everything that could go wrong, we forget what could go right. There is a 50/50 chance a bad thing could happen, and subsequently, a 50/50 chance a good thing could happen. I try to remind myself that when I get anxious and overanalyze.!

3. Give up control

No one really can control everything. Whether you believe in fate, God, or tarot cards, just have peace knowing that all you can do is wake up each day with a positive attitude and go out and try to make the world a better place for yourself and others. It’s so liberating to let go of expectations or worries and to, instead, just live.

4. Don't avoid your fears - face them

You have more strength inside you than you’ll ever know. After all, the only thing really holding you back is yourself.


What are some of your fears?

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